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What is BDSM?

Simply the acronym BDSM stands for Bondage, Discipline, Sadism, and Masochism. But alone each item contains a treasure trove of information. I could write an individual article on each item, but I will not do that for now. Before I being detailing each item I will give a quick overview of the history and reasons why people engage in BSDM. Additionally, I will give you many key terms and concepts in the BDSM lifestyle.


According to Merriam Webster, the first known use of the term BDSM was in 1991. However, the terms that create the acronym have been in use since the 19th century.

sexual activity involving such practices as the use of physical restraints, the granting and relinquishing of control, and the infliction of pain


Now let us break down the terms a little further


Bondage:

Bondage, as it is referred to in BDSM, refers to the fetish practice of using rope, handcuffs, zip ties and other types of instruments of restraint to consensually tie or bound a participant for the purpose of pleasure. According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary, bondage is defined as the service of a slave, servitude, or subjugation to a controlling person and sadomasochistic sexual practices involving the physical restraint of one partner. For our purpose, all three definitions detail the use of this fetish within the BDSM community.


Discipline

Discipline refers to the control factor within the relationship between the dominant and submissive. Discipline is defined in Merriam-Webster as orderly or prescribed conduct or pattern of behavior, training that molds or corrects mental faculties or moral character and punishment. As discipline related to the relationship, it is expected that the submissive act in a prescribed manner as to show respect to the dominant. If the submissive fails to complete a task or does not act in the prescribed manner then he/she is punished.


Sadism

Sadism is another term that refers to the fetish of gaining sexual gratification from inflicting pain. The definition by Merrian Webster adds that it is a delight in cruelty or extreme cruelty. First, let me say that murders and serial killers are different from individuals that participate in fetish or BDSM play. The definition is what it is however with anything your actions depend upon your intent and motivation. Sadism takes many forms such as physical which involves pain or mental as in humiliation or degrading treatment. An individual who engages in physical sadism safely, and I stress safely, are in tune with the individual whom they are inflicting pain upon. Prior to the act, both parties agree on act and instruments of pain, a safeword is established and the receiver has communicated his pain level.


Masochism

Masochism refers to the individual who derives sexual gratification from the pain being inflicted on them. Merrian Webster adds that it is the pleasure of being abused, dominated, and a taste for suffering. This individual is for all intensive purpose are the submissive who crave to be under the control of a sadistic Dominatrix. This Dominatrix may not even use pain to inflict pain on the masochist. She may use insults or make him wear degrading outfits or have him do humiliating tasks to hurt his ego.


Why do people engage in BDSM?


Some may ask why in the world would someone engage in this s**t... Well, my people...it is the same reason why people like ice cream. BECAUSE THEY LIKE IT. People gain gratification from a different thing and for some, it is dressing in leather and wearing a leash. However, people participate in BDSM in their regular sex life. If you use a tie to tie someone's hands together or choke them with your hands while having sex is you are engaging BDSM activities.


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